Cov me nyuam yuav tsum tau hlub, tsis tsa

2024 Tus sau: James Gerald | [email protected]. Kawg hloov kho: 2023-12-17 14:08

Cov menyuam yaus thiab niam txiv yog teeb meem uas zoo li lawv tsis tau sim daws ntxiv lawm, vim qhov no tsis yog kev lag luam muaj txiaj ntsig. Puas yog tiag? Dab tsi yog cov teeb meem tshwm sim feem ntau hauv niam txiv-menyuam kev sib raug zoo, thiab lawv yuav daws lawv li cas? Thiab nws puas ua tau txhua? Nov yog peb kev sib tham nrog Karine Gyulazizova, kws tshawb fawb txog kev puas siab ntsws ntawm Moscow Center for Analytical Psychology "Axis of Time".

- Karine, txhua yam teeb meem hauv tsev neeg ntawm cov txwj laus thiab menyuam yaus tuaj qhov twg? Lawv sib hlub …

- Nruab nrab ntawm niam txiv thiab menyuam hauv tsev neeg, kev hlub tsis muaj nyob ntev lawm. Thaum cov niam txiv pib tham txog qhov no, lawv ib txwm npau taws: yuav ua li cas kuv thiaj tsis hlub kuv tus menyuam? Kuv mob siab txog nws, Kuv yuav ntau heev! Kuv tsim txhua yam xwm txheej rau nws, tab sis tus menyuam tsuas yog lub ntsiab lus ntawm kuv lub neej! Peb pib tham ntxiv, nug cov lus nug. Piv txwv li, koj paub tseeb tias koj tus menyuam xav tau dab tsi? Cov lus teb yog banal: zoo, qhov no yog kuv tus menyuam, yog li kuv paub zoo dua! Ntawd yog, muaj qhov hloov pauv ntawm kev xav, hloov pauv ntawm cov ntsiab lus, tab sis qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws, cov niam txiv tsis lees txais tus menyuam ua tus neeg, lawv vam khom lawv lub tswv yim txog lub neej uas nws yuav tsum muaj. Yog li, tus menyuam tsis muaj nws tus kheej lub neej thiab thaum yau tsis muaj kev txaus rau nws tus kheej. Thiab nws, menyuam yaus, tsis muaj nyob hauv thiaj li yuav loj hlob.

Ib tus neeg me me raug mob los ntawm ib yam me me. Txawm tias lub rooj thiab lub rooj zaum, vim tias lawv loj dua. Kuv ib txwm qhia niam txiv: yog tias koj xav hnov koj tus menyuam zoo li cas, zaum thiab sim sib tham hauv txoj haujlwm no nrog cov neeg ntawm koj hnub nyoog. Qhov nro yog loj heev. Hauv tebchaws Switzerland, piv txwv li, Kuv pom tias yam xwm txheej twg yog tsim rau menyuam yaus. Cov menyuam chav tau muab ntaub nrog cov ntaub tshwj xeeb, tsis muaj cov ces kaum thiab tus menyuam tuaj yeem tsoo hauv chav no ntawm nws tus kheej, yam tsis muaj kev puas tsuaj, raws li nws xav tau. Nws yog dawb los ntawm kev txwv, uas peb muaj ntau dua li txaus: koj tsis tuaj yeem mus ntawm no, koj tsis tuaj yeem mus rau ntawd, tsis txhob kov nws, tsis txhob kov nws, txwv tsis pub koj yuav raug tua. Peb yeej nyob deb ntawm Swiss cov xwm txheej. Tab sis peb tseem tsis tau sim hloov chaw rau menyuam yaus. Peb muaj nws raws li cov lus hais dav dav: "Tsis muaj ib yam ntawm koj nyob ntawm no thiab txhua yam no tsis yog rau koj!"

- Yog tias tsis muaj peev xwm ua tau ntawm qib physiology kom nyob sib luag, yog li kev xav puas tsim nyog ua menyuam nrog menyuam?

- Tsis yog, koj yuav tsum nyob hauv koj lub luag haujlwm. Niam txiv txoj hauj lwm yog dab tsi? Nov yog lub peev xwm los lav ris koj tus menyuam, thaum tseem tshuav niam txiv. Thiab peb muaj niam txiv rau lawv cov menyuam, leej twg, tab sis tsis yog niam txiv. Lawv yog lawv cov kwv tij, muam, phooj ywg - uas lawv nyiam kom txaus siab rau. Peb nquag hnov, piv txwv li: "Kuv yog phooj ywg rau kuv tus menyuam." Qhov no tsis yog ib txwm. Nws yuav nco ntsoov nrhiav phooj ywg thiab phooj ywg rau nws tus kheej, tab sis, alas, tsis muaj niam. Thiab qhov teeb meem no yuav raug daws nyob rau lwm txoj kev.

Muaj, ntawm chav kawm, ntau qhov zoo kom muaj tus qauv kev sib raug zoo nrog tus menyuam zoo li nrog tus kwv lossis tus muam. Muaj kev xav ntau ntxiv txog kev xav ntawm no ntau dua li kev sib raug zoo ntawm niam txiv. Tab sis hauv qhov no, ib tus yuav tsum nco ntsoov qhov tshwm sim. Hauv txoj kev sib raug zoo, tus menyuam tsis muaj niam txiv. Nws loj hlob yam tsis muaj lub nraub qaum, tsis muaj kev tiv thaiv. Tus menyuam zoo li tus neeg tsis muaj tsev nyob. Nws cov kev xav hauv zej zog yuav raug hloov chaw. Nws tsis zoo li tsis tuaj yeem pom zoo nrog tus neeg sawv ntawm nws thiab vim li ntawd, nws yuav muaj teeb meem nrog kev ua haujlwm yav tom ntej. Nws yuav nyuaj rau tus menyuam li no los tsim kev sib deev sib deev ib txwm muaj. Los yog txhua yam kev sib deev kev sib deev txhua. Cov menyuam yaus, ntxiv rau, loj hlob, zoo li "poob" ntawm cov neeg uas tau qhia yam tsawg kawg qee qhov kev saib xyuas rau lawv. Thiab qhov no yog fraught.

- Koj tau hais tias yam tsis nyob hauv kev sib raug zoo ntawm niam txiv thiab menyuam, thiab yuav tsum yog dab tsi?

- Tau kawg, lub siab xav tiv thaiv koj tus menyuam. Thaum tus menyuam paub tias muaj niam thiab txiv uas yuav nrog nws nyob txhua lub sijhawm. Lawv yuav tsis xam tawm tias leej twg yog tus raug thiab leej twg tsis raug, leej twg yog lub hom phiaj thiab leej twg tsis yog. Lawv ib txwm xaiv nws. Lawv tiv thaiv nws nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm cov pej xeem, nyob rau hauv pem hauv ntej ntawm tib tus kws qhia ntawv, txawm tias nws muab khawm rau ntawm nws tus kws qhia lub rooj zaum. Ua ntej tus kws qhia ntawv, lawv yuav tiv thaiv, tab sis nrog nws ib leeg los piav qhia txhua yam zoo thiab tsis zoo ntawm nws kev ua. Cov niam txiv feem coob tau koom nrog tib qhov kev tshawb fawb rau lub hom phiaj. Thiab nws tsis muaj nyob. Ib tus menyuam zoo siab thaum nws paub tias nws niam nws txiv lees txais nws yam tsis muaj xwm txheej, yooj yim los ntawm qhov tseeb ntawm nws lub neej. Tau kawg, qhov no tsis tau txhais hais tias tus menyuam tsis tas yuav qhia thaj tsam. Qhov no kuj yog huab.

Nws yog qhov zoo heev, kuv rov hais dua, tseem ceeb heev rau tus menyuam tham nrog, kom tau puag. Thaum kuv tau nug ntau yam lus nug txog teeb meem nrog menyuam yaus thaum tshaj tawm hauv xov tooj cua "Moscow hais lus", Kuv nug cov lus nug: koj puag koj tus menyuam ntau npaum li cas? Thiab tib neeg pib xav tiag. Hauv ntau tsev neeg, nws tsis yog ib txwm coj los puag menyuam, hnia lawv. Tab sis peb tau nyeem ntau qhov kev qhuab qhia ntawm lub ncauj lus "Yuav kawm li cas thiaj li tau txais daim ntawv pov thawj zoo". Cov niam txiv feem ntau muaj cov txheej txheem rau txim zoo kawg. Thiab txhua qhov no pib ua kom sib npaug, zoo li mob qog noj ntshav thiab muab cov metastases loj heev. Ib tus neeg tam sim no pib sim kom tau txais kev hlub, thiab qhov no tsis yooj yim sua. Cov xwm txheej, qib, kev hwm tuaj yeem ua tau, tab sis kev hlub tsis tuaj yeem khwv tau.

- Ntawd yog, kom txog rau qee lub sijhawm nws yuav tsum tau lees txais tus menyuam hauv tus qauv uas nws nyob?

- Yog lawm Txoj kev nws yog.

- Thiab dab tsi txog qhov zoo tshaj plaws li kev txhawb nqa?

- Tus menyuam tsis tas yuav tsum tau coj tshwj xeeb. Koj yuav tsum ua lub neej ncaj ncees nrog koj tus kheej. Hais lus ncaj qha, ua piv txwv rau nws. Tus menyuam muaj qhov muag thiab pob ntseg, thiab txhua yam ntxiv. Thiab saib nws niam nws txiv, yog tias lawv ua lub neej noj qab nyob zoo, nws yuav tsis loj hlob los ua neeg txawv txawv. Thiab kom qhia ntawv … Nws zoo li hauv kev tso dag: - Buratino, leej twg tsa koj? - Thaum twg yog txiv Carlo, thiab thaum tsis muaj leej twg! Yog li nws nyob ntawm no. Kuv nkag siab tias yog vim li cas lo lus no tau tsim - rov ua kom lub zog ntawm tus kheej tsis muaj zog. Cov menyuam yaus yuav tsum tsis txhob kawm, tab sis nyiam.

Tham nrog Alexander Samyshkin